Actor: Carl Lumbly
of "South Central"
The clip below reminded me, somewhat, of my brother with my father. For a long time I've thought that we, as black people, think often about being too lax with children but not enough about being too harsh.
I don't know that our community, generally speaking, reflects enough on how being over-controlling,
- due to fears of what white people will do to children -- even post slavery, even without cops present,
- due to fears of a child not "being manly enough" or "not being feminine enough" in a traditional, hard gender role sense, play in bad parental decision making.
In this scene, a man reflects on how
his own rigidity
mistaken for true love
had had consequences for his son.