Monday, May 14, 2018

ON GASLIGHTING BLACK WOMEN IN COLORBLIND DEFENSE OF "LEAVE YO ASS FOR A WHITE GIRL"

Lyrics from Old Kanye's GOLD DIGGER

So stick by his side 
I know there's dudes ballin', 

and yeah, that's nice 
And they gonna keep callin' and tryin', 

but you stay right, girl 
And when you get on, 

he'll leave yo' ass for a white girl



IT'S TRUE

AN INDIVIDUAL BLACK MAN'S CHOICE DOES NOT MATTER


Whether or not Donald Glover, Kanye, Nate Parker only get erections around white and light women is irrelevant to the lives of 98% of black women. 

But the fact that black men are as colorblind as some white people when it comes to seeing a pattern among black men --as far as who they choose to love and partner with once they get rich-- shouldn't be.



continued from 
COLORBLIND BLACK MEN AND THE CHILDISH GAMBIT TO DEFEND DONALD GLOVER(WHEN THERE'S REALLY NOTHING TO DEFEND)




The fact that a fairly large percentage of black men will gaslight black women by telling black women that they do not see the obvious, when it comes to the behavior patterns of high profile black men, should be of the utmost importance to black women 

-- at least the ones who still value the preservation of the black community because denial is destroying us from the inside.





This discussion of Donald Glover's love life isn't really about Donald Glover or white women at all, but about the disrespecting and devaluing black women whose looks are not in close proximity to whiteness and also about the devaluing of black women in general


As most of us know by now, BLACK LIVES MATTER was created by three black women but black women are not raised up by the black community. This shows a breathtaking level of disrespect and devaluation of black women all by itself.
When black women die at the hands of police their names are not raised up in black social media. Therefore these dead black women do not make the national news. I recently heard about a black woman named Wakiesha Wilson that was killed while in police custody in 2016. And I only know of Wilson now because her aunt threw her ashes on the LAPD's police chief a few days ago. 


Just like Sandra Bland, the police are saying Wakiesha Wilson committed suicide -- and they know this despite 20 critical minutes of police video having come-up-missin'. But I hadn't heard of her name until a few days ago - a whole two years after her death. 
Wakiesha Wilson 
The only reason we all know about Sandra Bland, from coast to coast, is because #SayHerName was created to bring black women back into the #BlackLivesMatter movement. And so far it looks like Bland is one of the few black women to benefit from #SayHerName. 
Black women killed by police are still being e-raced and forgotten.    
Nine out of ten black people still don't know who Miriam Carey is despite a predominantly white congress cheering upon hearing about her death. 
The black community doesn't care about black women the way it does about black men.
Black men (and their Pick-Me-s) have been defending R. Kelly's sexual abuse of black female children for decades -- calling them heaux that know what they are doing when they are as young as 13 and 14 years of age. 
 The black community doesn't care about black girl children the way it does about black men. 
And part of that caring about black men more is defending the black community against negative information on black men. And the obvious pattern of black men seeking white and light women once they've "made it" is as negative as it gets     


BLACK MALE PATTERNS MATTER 
Google Search Results:  "Black Athlete and White Wife"


All of this is why it is not shocking the black men and way too many non-feminist black women are pretending to be colorblind when it comes to seeing 50, 60 or 70 percent of black male actors, black male directors and and black male athletes have white, asian, latina and occasionally light skinned black women  INSTEAD OF the usual array of black women that 8% of black men with ordinary incomes marry. 

Again, you cannot tell what the deal is with a rich black man just because he has chosen a white or light woman to be his partner. Again, I might date a white man tomorrow. Who knows? But the gap between 12% black men with ordinary incomes marrying-out and 50, 60, or 70%  percent of rich black men marrying-out should tell you that a fair percentage of the rich black men are NOT marrying for love but for the woman's proximity to whiteness.


Google Search Results: "Black Athlete and Wife"
(I only see 4 black women with definitive black looks. What do you see

Even so, don't get it twisted. Black men aren't the only ones subject to brainwashing by fathers, brothers, television, billboards, and movies.

Once upon a time, I found a website that showed (predominantly) white baseball player wives. (Can't believe I can't find it anymore) Out of approximately two dozen women, 22 of them were blond with the same body shape and mostly the same face. The women looked so much a like that I can't believe these white men don't run up on the wrong woman when they come out of the locker room after a game.  
Black men are the same as white men in this way: 
  • They look at what the the next guy has a status symbol and he wants the same thing, slightly better because everything is a competition in Patriarchy World. That is, most of these white trophy wives are simply status symbols, a Rolex with legs that talks and has sex on command. 
Tiger With Old and With New
(Pre-White-Woman-Sex-Scandal, Tiger was identified by
the white media as '"colorblind"
A white way of calling him "one of the good ones" )
For so long as white trophy wife doesn't display any signs of independent thought for at least two to five years, this objectified woman is a woman who is financially set for life.  She, as "the gold digger," is the usual counterpart to the mediocre to repulsive male "gold spreader." So, I ain't mad at any of them -- not in a world where even a white woman make 20 to 25% less than a man just because she's female.   
So if white men decide (in the year 2050 or so) that the fashionable trophy wife to have is a black woman who looks black, I'm thinking the same section of weak-minded, rich black men will want black women too. 

I think this is a reasonable assumption to make about the competition-based-mind looking for a walking-talking status symbol. Don't you? 


In the final analysis, black women should be concerned and upset by the pattern of black high profile black men marrying out --even if we do not want their white supremacy damaged asses back in the fold. 


Despite a black man's marrying-out or marrying-light is not reliably indicative of internalized racism, it's not always indicative of nothing either.  And a lot of them should be seen as sitting inside the black community, spreading a mental and emotional disease to young black boys that crushes young black girls.


While you cannot tell what's in a black man's heart by looking at his current white partner, you can say something is going on when an individual black man decides to repeatedly choose white or light partners. 
AN INDIVIDUAL BLACK MALE'S PATTERN MATTERS
(especially if he's a content creator or a father)

It's very possible that repeatedly choosing multiple white and light partners should always be seen as the tip of an anti-black iceberg. Why? Because, as quiet as it is kept, there is no way to be genuinely pro-black while supporting and being concerned about black men only. 

More importantly, there's no way for ordinary black folk

who pretend to be colorblind
when it comes to seeing this obvious pattern
among the black male one-percenters
in Hollywood and in sports
to raise black boys up into black men
who respect and value black women.   

headline

Jay Z’s ‘Becky’ is a composite of the many women he had affairs with during his marriage





Yeah. You bet I'm angry about the perpetuation of white supremacist values and colorism in the black community.  A lot of black women are. And the silence around black men chasing after light and white women has been deafening for literally centuries.

Did you know that Frederick Douglass brought, not one but two, white women into his house while his black wife lived there? Douglass' daughter wrote a book where she said white abolitionists could barely hide their hatred for her mother

One of these white women, Ottilie Assing, had a years long crush on him (an affair many say) and she left him her considerable money after she committed suicide.  That black wife would be the one you never hear about, Anna Douglass, the one who helped him escape slavery....the one he never managed to teach to read.  


And reading between the lines of some history books on Ida B Wells, he threw her under the bus on more than one occasion trying to preserve his relationship with white suffragists (the original sell out white feminists) 


There's no way to know know for sure, but if we ever get access to a time machine, we might find out that Frederick Douglass -- despite the great things he achieved -- was the original f*ckboi.


The thing I do know for sure is this: For as long as we

  • pretend black men didn't invent the hair relaxer; 
  • pretend that black women haven't been straightening their hair and bleaching their skin trying to be attractive to black men; 
  • pretend that most of the black women of the civil rights movement were pale only because these were the only black women black men really see or listen to (you can see this on social media to this day); 
  • pretend to not see black men choose white and light women as soon as they can afford to buy one
...we are doomed to keep producing black boys who grow up to be black men who cannot and will not value black women. 

For so long as black men, and therefore most of the black community, do not value black women the way it should, 
1. STRAIGHT OUTTA COMPTON casting choices will continue to be denied as important (and also reflective of real black male values in the 1990s).  
2. The John Ridleys in Hollywood will also continue to tell black history via vehicles like GUERILLA that e-race black women. 
3. And, most importantly black boys will continue to be raised adoring Kanye, R.Kelly, and Nate Parker simply because they are rich and appear to have "made it" -- no matter what kind of garbage they pour into the minds of black boys and girls.  
All this focus on defending Donald Glover (a.k.a. Childish Gambino) has revealed --yet one more time- that the black community is a house divided by sexism, misogyny and internalized racism.  And a house divided against itself cannot stand even if the white racists pounding on our doors from the outside evaporate tomorrow.

Somebody call Bill Duke and tell him that his next documentary on colorism needs to be named DARK BOYS. 
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