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Friday, July 14, 2017

Harry Belafonte, Jesse Williams, Jay Z, Dr Umar, The Allure Of White Women And Making DARK BOYS I

Before you read this, let me remind you that I want to see DARK BOYS 1 before I see Bill Duke make another DARK GIRLS documentary because black men are likely contributing more than their fair share to the black community's colorism problem.

Yeah, I changed the title a little bit )
 “There’s dishes in the back, he gotta roll up his sleeves
But while y’all washin’—watch him
He gon’ make it to a Benz out of that Datsun
He got that ambition, baby, look in his eyes
This week he moppin’ floors, next week he’s on fries
So stick by his side
I know there’s dudes ballin’, and yeah, that’s nice
And they gonna keep callin’ and tryin’, but you stay right, girl
And when you get on, he’ll leave yo’ ass for a white girl”
—Kanye West, “Gold Digger”
There is always truth in humor. The reason Kanye West’s line is so memorable is that we’ve all seen it happen. The idea that white women have always been a graduation present or lifetime achievement award for black men has become an accepted trope among black people. We quietly talk about it among ourselves, in barbershops and at cookouts.
The thought that rich, successful and famous black men eventually trade in black women for white women is such an acknowledged fact that we don’t even bother pointing out that the guy who wrote and rapped it left our ass for a white girl.
At no time has that idea been more in focus than this week. The entire Umar Johnson controversy started over comments he made on The Breakfast Clubabout interracial dating. Johnson basically condemned black men who choose to date white women. While his comments were cringeworthy to most progressive, logical-thinking people, his explanation was almost like hearing someone describe a bout of explosive diarrhea—you don’t want to listen, but you can’t publicly deny that you’ve felt the same way.

That’s also how many of us caught feelings listening to Jay-Z on 4:44 explain his regret over his affair with the infamous “Becky with the good hair.” I always believed that Jigga suffered more from the widespread notion that it was a nonblack woman with whom he cheated. I mean, if you can cheat on BeyoncĂ©, with a white woman, is any black woman safe?
[Answer: Heck no]

As much as I hate to admit it, black women are mostly non-feminist and they mostly follow black men-- right off a cliff sometimes. And colorism is one of those issues where black men lead and non-feminist women follow. Women in this sexist society are STILL primarily evaluated by their looks, their beauty -- even feminists have too much emphasis on looks and who is beautiful as they try to widen the definition of "beautiful."

When you live in a society numerically dominated by white people (or economically dominated by white people like in some eastern countries) the white woman is going to be put up on ye olde pedestal -- and men of color are going to be brainwashed into wanting it.

And where men of color are brainwashed into wanting the white female it, then women of color are going to try to imitate the white female it. If there wasn't a white woman on this planet, black women would have come up with straightening their hair and straight weaves because we like variety and we gots it like dat. But the percentage of black women rocking straight hair at any given moment would probably be closer to 10% than 75% during any given year....if we weren't all being beat over the head with white beauty aesthetic as beautiful.

So I hope Bill Duke makes DARK BOYS 1 before he makes DARK GIRLS 2 because the black community cannot recover if the black men don't recover too.