SEEKING RELATIONSHIP: The Difference Between Pick-Me-s And Women With Self-Respect

Dianne Foster said,

Wanting to be "picked" isn't the issue. 

[Almost] all of us have a need to want to be with someone who is compatible and respects and cherishes us. 

That's not an issue.

It's when you kiss the ass of every dude that makes a post about what a "real woman" does or what a "respectable woman" does or you lower yourself to agree with every sexist and misogynistic post out there.

And you do it in hopes that one of those sad little ashy Negros will hop in your [social media] inbox and picks you.

And when they do pick you, you'll be miserable trying to live up to the standards of a man who isn't even worthy enough to wash your panties.

And the choir sang, "Amen. Aaaaah ha-ha ha-ha men. Amen."

Then DebLynn added,

And these miserable childish girls, at age 25 or 45, are incapable of raising men. They can only raise entitled little bully boys, a fraction of whom will become domestic abusers when they don't get their way. In the meantime, most of their daughters also become Pick-Me-s, a fraction of them become domestic abuse victims. 

White people are solely responsible for white supremacy despite coons, same as men are responsible for male supremacy (patriarchy) despite enabling pick-me-s. But the black community has tons more than its share of these enablers...because pick-me-s are weak-minded.

They believe it when black men say they suffer more from white supremacy than black women do and when they imply the impacts of sexism (from them) is negligible. And when black pick-me-s believe this, they also decide to believe that black men deserve extra breaks -- breaks like not demanding the basics of respect and loyalty for herself or her children.

Pick-me-s are not the source of the disease called "male supremacy" or "patriarchy." But they are very efficient carriers. 

Very.

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10 SIGNS YOU'RE A PICK-ME THAT AIN'T GOT THE BRAINS YOU WERE BORN WITH

People didn’t know whether the image below was a Lysol ad or what.

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And they couldn’t figure out why Amara would make it a point to clean a house she doesn’t live in, a house that doesn’t belong to her, and presumably the house of another grown, able-bodied individual. 

In the modern era, men clean their own houses, not only women are out here working alongside them but because that’s just what responsible adults should be doing for themselves. Furthermore, if a man’s house is dirty, it’s not a reflection of the woman, it’s a reflection of his own triflingness. Period. Fullstop [Women were not put on this plant to absolve men of basic adulthood responsibilities]

For as much as I wanted to ride for Amara, she’s proven herself to be a “pick me.” 

If you’ve never heard the phrase before, a [pick-me] woman is one who tries to distinguish herself from other women with the intent of making herself appear more appealing [to men, by groveling at their feet, making sure she to say things that indicate she considers herself a human footstool whenever she's not doing her nightly impression of a latex blow up doll.*] 

If you’re wondering if you’ve ever been or continue to be a pick me or you just want to double-check and make sure you’re not embarrassing yourself...

~CURLY NIKKI 

Read More:  

http://www.curlynikki.com/2018/08/10-signs-youre-pick-me-woman.html

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* The statement she made tends to indicate she's not using her head for much more than a wig stand and a place to play with make-up...and that's it.  And anybody who can't really use her brain to think beyond what she looks like and how she many men she can get to drool over her, may not do much more than lay there looking pretty when it comes to sex. 

FRENCH ACTRESS POO-POOS #ME TOO AND CONFIRMS WE'RE ON THE RIGHT TRACK

I'm glad some French film makers have said they hate #MeToo. 

Glad, I tell ya. 

Because I have hated damn near every french film I have ever seen due to its depiction of women.
The reason I'm glad the irrelevant french actress Catherine Deneuve and a percentage of the french film industry hates #MeToo is because it confirms, for me personally, that the french and how they see women is seriously sexist and messed up. Frankly, I think the internalized sexism that women suffer from in France must be off the chain. 

For a long time, I thought it was just me. But Catherine Deneuve and the 100 french film makers and scholars that backed her up have just proven IT'S NOT ME. IT'S THEM


PLOTS OF FRENCH FILMS
(that I saw back to back to back to back)

1) One movie was about this white kid named Jules, maybe 19 or 20 years old, who is in love with music in general and particularly in love with this black opera star who refuses to have herself recorded in any form. He goes to all her concerts, like she's The Grateful Dead or something, and records a bootleg at a concert. Criminals are trying to kill him to get the recording and sell it for millions of dollars. 

The hero winds up being a white pedophile (implied) with an Asian girlfriend who looks like she's no more than 14 years old to his forty, but supposedly sexy.

2) Another film was about how fancy free and sexy and half naked this white woman was to this very, very, VERY average looking white guy.  

She didn't do one damn thing that made a lick of sense for 1.5 hours then gouged her own eyes out just before the end of the film. Her incredible freedom and joie de vivre was mental illness, I guess. 

My eyes were open, but I was comatose 15 minutes in. I think that's what happened.

3) The third film starts off with another EXTREMELY average looking white guy seeing this waif supposedly-beautiful white girl--that he's knows but doesn't really know- at a party or a wedding reception. 

He goes home in the rain bummed out he couldn't think of a way to get to know her better. White girl then shows up at his door soaking wet. He goes to get her a towel, he comes back and she's naked waiting for the towel, while behaving like an innocent 10 year old 

BARF. 

They start to date. We find out Wackadoo is living in the basement of an empty mansion that her mother owns, who's always dancing with some young guy. There's a strange smell in the basement. Turns out it's some guy the girl killed a while ago. When the police arrest her, she's pouty and confused that everybody all hyper about her killing someone for no apparent reason. Sexy mental illness again.

4) The other  french films I've seen that were NOT teenage-boy wet dreams filmed by 50 year pot bellied french reject, had 35 to 40 year old women in them instead of teenagers. And the women were bitter and smoking all the time, having that sex they didn't appear to enjoy...which somehow was supposed to make them sophisticated and wise

I like foreign films. 

I hate french foreign films. 

And I hate that Blockbuster is gone because that was really the only way I had of perusing foreign films and indie films and deciding a DVD cover looked interesting enough to give a shot. (Pssst!  Trust me, a DVD cover has to look VERY interesting in order for me to be willing to read subtitles. )

But I found myself wanting to hit myself over the head with a bat every SINGLE time I broke down and got a french film that looked interesting. 

Now that I look at this list, I can be more specific. 

I HATE 
FRENCH WOMEN 
IN FRENCH FILMS

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/09/movies/catherine-deneuve-and-others-denounce-the-metoo-movement.html

Catherine Deneuve and french others hating the United States #MeToo and #TimesUp movements mean we are on the right track. 

The one point Deneuve might have is that the men accused are disappearing too quickly. 

But the reason the men are disappearing so quickly is because their employers CONGRESS, NBC, PBS, etc are trying to damage control before the whole sordid mess becomes too detailed and the employers get splashed with more than just mud.

I feel like we got one-tenth of the story on a bunch of men who just disappeared all of a sudden. I was disappointed in Charlie Rose, but I know there was more there. But I don't know that we had a right to know more. If the women involved didn't want to expose themselves, then they didn't.    

Rape victims don't have to say what happened blow by blow to the public, and neither do sexual harassment victims....for the same reason. It's humiliating. The offender, the employer, and the victim get to know the details.

And I felt the same way about Congressman John Conyers -- that there was more there that we didn't get to hear. I feel like Conyers' legacy was about to be destroyed--not just damaged--if he didn't shut the investigation down quickly. 

That's probably why Matt Lauer went fairly quickly and quietly too.  The large amount that we heard about Lauer in a short time seems to indicate there was tons that could have been exposed about him AND ABOUT how NBC covered it up.  When a man is bold enough to give a female coworker a sex toy, everybody knows he's a dirt bag --and for some of the men, he's a bold dirt bag they admire.

For some men, leaving quickly meant legacy damaged but not destroyed.

And that would especially appealing to some men if they think #MeToo will pass and things will go back to status quo-- which I was worried about until #TimesUp.  But now women's groups, as part of #TimesUp, are putting together resources and money to sue employers. And they are on their way to proposing legislation.

As for Deneuve's male witch hunt complaint, I for one would love to see each and every man get dragged over the coals and get all the detail about what they did for months on end -- for so long as women's identities were protected. I'd love to see them dragged instead of allowing these rich men to disappear after a few minutes of embarrassment. These men tortured their victims at work, for years in a lot of cases. 

They deserve a hell of a lot more than losing their jobs. And a public dragging would be just the ticket for me. 

Because these men are disappearing so quickly, the other thing that's happening is that the public isn't getting enough information to discern the difference between level 1 and level 10 sexual harassment. And level 10 harassment might be very close to rape or the threat of rape. 

And all levels, might be offenses worth firing someone over

For example: If Ben Affleck squeezes a woman's breasts and she knocks one of his teeth out in response, in order to call that a draw both of them have to have committed a crime.  He sexually assaulted her. She straight assaulted him. If the cops come, they can both press charges or both let it go.  

As it stands now, the breast squeeze is STILL "boys will be boys" and an apology for a lot of men, Deneuve and her 100 followers. That's why a lot of the first articles, written by men, on sexual harassment were about "men misbehaving" 

#MeToo and #TimesUP need to move toward criminalizing the boys-will-be-boys crap, at all levels, until even an ill-informed irrelevant french actress can understand it. 



https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/09/movies/catherine-deneuve-and-others-denounce-the-metoo-movement.html

WAS KANYE NOT AMERICAN ENOUGH TO PERFORM AT INAUGURATION BECAUSE HE IS NOT WHITE ENOUGH?

BWAAAAA HA HA HA




A spokesperson for president-elect Donald Trump's inauguration committee told CNN that Friend of Donald Kanye West was not invited to perform at the real estate mogul's inaugural because 

Ye's music wasn't right for the "typically and traditionally American event."

 Tom Barrack, chairman of the Presidential Inauguration Committee, told CNN's Erin Burnett that the inauguration wasn't a "fitting" venue for West, who famously met with Trump in December and posed for a stiff photo at Trump Tower afterwards and whose music is about to be the subject of a course at Washington University in St. Louis called "Politics of Kanye West: Black Genius and Sonic Aesthetics."

http://www.billboard.com/articles/columns/hip-hop/7661885/kanye-west-not-invited-to-perform-at-trump-inauguration-because-traditionally-american-event

I wonder if Kanye understands the code?

Allow me to translate: An inauguration is no place for your jungle music, n-word. 

Never Forget 

"typically and traditionally American" 

means 

"white people" to white people

And it's not just conservative whites that conflate "American" with "Whites" 

I watched an entire four hour documentary about Barack Obama's presidency on "liberal" PBS just yesterday. Durinig Frontline's "The Divided States Of America" the narrator said "Americans" when he CLEARLY meant "White Americans" Whether good information was in the documentary or not, the narrator did this over and over and over again. And this kind of e-race-sure and white-face-saving is offensive in 2016.

Furthermomre, Donald Trump is the direct outcome of e-race-sure of race and white racism plus white-face-saving -- no matter how stoic and professional a manner this the e-race-sure and white-face-saving is done in.
 

I suppose I ought to be glad some white run news agencies can recognize when this nobody-but-whites-are-really-Amercan insult is being issued. A lot of them couldn't just a few years back. 


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BIDDING ADIEU TO BADU AND THE SOUL TRAIN AWARDS

The word "Adieu"
(French)
Translation: Bye Felicia

Erykah Badu has a uniquely beautiful face and this totally cool vibe to her. And she's sung a couple of black woman anthems. So I like her. I've never been that big a huge fan, but I like her and I try to check out what she's been doing from time to time. 

Recently, Badu sang R. Kelly's praises as she introduced him on The Soul Train Awards.

“I know they said no red cups y’all, but this man has done more for the blacks than anyone.”

“He taught how, in the name of love, to step together. He taught us to stay out that trapped closet. And he believes he can fly,” she continued.

This is not okay.

I heard an interview with Badu recently, so I know she's not the sharpest stick in the box. But we all know by now that there's video of R. Kelly peeing on a black female child and also that his own words leave no doubt that he would be guilty of statutory rape in most civilized countries.

There's no excuse for a black woman being but so ignorant and/or being so foul herself that she doesn't care what this low life has done that another black woman or girl.

Beyond a certain level of self-hatred, I have to turn away. Therefore, I'm going to show my love for black women and black girls by boycotting Badu and The Soul Train Awards, both. I'm done.

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