"...I’ve admitted in the past, my own memories are often unreliable. That’s hardly unusual. I’ve written about an old friend who told my son, “Jack, when I tell you stories about your father and me, I am never intentionally lying, but I cannot say for certain that any of the stories are true.”
But back to Kavanaugh. As his interrogators dredged up his past, it seemed evident that he and his high school pals were big drinkers. His enemies even brought forth a letter he had written to his pals before they rented a condo at the ocean. Somebody should warn the neighbors, he wrote, that we are “loud, obnoxious drunks with prolific pukers among us.”
What’s more, the buddy who was supposedly with him during the alleged assault later wrote a book, “Wasted: Tales of a Gen X Drunk.” It was about his high school days.
Still, in very emotional testimony, Kavanaugh denied that he was ever a big drinker. Never got really drunk. Never blacked out.
In a more tolerant society, he could have been more measured: “I did not have my head on straight when I was 17. I was entitled. I went to an exclusive private school. I was smart and an athlete, one of the popular kids. We went to country club parties and we rented condos on the ocean. Imagine that."
In a society less dominated by male supremacy, a boy or man laying his body down on top of a girl or woman groping her as he attempts to take her clothes would be an obvious rape attempt.
But that's not the America we're living in.
If the writer's daughters, nieces, grand daughters, and grand nieces go to college there's a one in four chance they'll experience what we all know Kavanaugh did to Dr. Christine Blasey Ford OR a fully executed rape if the girl children in his life aren't lucky enough to be wearing a one piece swim suit the boy-man laying on top of them can't get past.
The writer should "imagine that" instead.
And if rape or attempted rape really happens to one of the four girls he cares about, the writer should then talk this faux forgiveness with his girl child or his barely out of childhood girl--somebody he REALLY cares about -- right after that boy has laid on top of her and tried to grind his erection into her while stripping her naked, reduce it to "groping" --which I can tell you from personal experience is still a terrifying sexual assault.
What's even worse, only a man could think a woman could forget the name of a person she knew beforehand when that same person attempts to rape her at a later date. And such an empathy deficient man would only utter this nonsensical crap to a woman.
I mean, can you imagine a man named "John," anywhere on the planet, saying to another man named "Mike" something along the lines of "Hey Mike maybe you just got confused about who got mad at you and cut your hand off out of spite? Maybe it wasn't Sam. After all, it was a long time ago."Only a man could equate forgetting the details of childhood escapades with remembering which one of the known boys in your neighborhood sexually assaulted you. And when I say "only a man...." I mean, I don't think the most brain-dead, anti-feminist woman could come up with such a false equivalency, not unless she was a pick-me trying to hold on to a man that barely tolerates her.
Moreover, remembering the-who is not the same thing as remembering whether his hand went up under your shirt first or down your pants first.
Remembering somebody you already know after they've sexually assaulted you is also unlike identifying the facial features of a stranger who rapes or attempts to rape you. Most women --whether they try to fight during a rape or not-- are busy trying to will themselves to another planet, to another freaking dimension. That's not conducive to remembering a strangers face.
And, strangers look like one another. The older I get, the most I see how many people can look like one another. That's why you should be frightened to death if you ever find yourself in a police lineup.But when you know Brett Kavanaugh already and Brett Kavanaugh attempts to rape you, you don't get confused and think maybe Sam Jones did it instead.
This faux kindness, faux logic, and faux reasonableness in this article is just a way of being dismissive. And it confirms my earlier point:
Everybody knows Brett Kavanaugh attempted to rape Christine Blasey Ford. Those on the right, the left, the center, and the independents, they all know.
The male supremacists in each group, whether they be male or female, just don't want to call what Kavanaugh did "attempted rape" because they've been conditioned to think most sexual assaults are no big deal --not until the penis has actually penetrated the vagina by force; and even then "a rape" needs to have happened in an alley by a stranger, hopefully a black or brown skinned stranger, in order for the event to be truly identified as "rape."Do not be confused. This article didn't have one damn thing to do with kindness or being reasonable. This was likely an attempt to justify his own attempted rapes or the attempted rapes of friends.
That's the only way you can mistake what Christine Blasey Ford said for "groping" which, again, is still a serious sexual assault. When women start reaching around from behind and grabbing strange men's penises and attempting to either yank them off and bend them in half, maybe men will get it. For now, the only way women stop girls from being collateral damage in boy's coming of age stories is for women to get half the political and legal power in this country. And not just any women either. Feminists have to get half the power in this country.
Women, white women in particular, who derive their power from men and are happy with the feeling of this second hand power are not going to stop calling sexual assaults a boy's right of passage either. They've told us this. It's time to believe them.So vote. Vote in every election you can. Your state representatives are the key to controlling what police and judges do. Your congressmen and senators, they determine what a president can or cannot do; determine which judges will or will not be confirmed.
Vote.
One day, when feminist women have enough power, we will change the laws. Then ten times as many girls and women will feel safe reporting the Brett Kavanaughs to the police for level 1, level 2, or level 3 sexual assault--OR-- if no touching is involved women will even feel safe reporting the Les Moonves-es of the world for a misdemeanor level 1, level 2, or level 3 sexual harassment charge.
But we cannot create these multi-layer, misdemeanor and felony, sexual harassment and sexual assault laws and enforce them until we break the patriarchy, until we reduce the male supremacy. And we cannot do that unless we vote. In most states you can still register to vote between October 22 and October 30th. And in some states, if not most states, you can register on line in a couple of minutes--> https://www.vote.org/register-to-vote/ VOTE!
