It amazes me when I hear of ex- husbands and ex-boyfriends who really want to be ex-fathers accuse the women they produced children with of being gold diggers when they know perfectly damn well they never had any gold to dig.
The estimated cost of raising a child from birth through age 17 is $233,610 -- or as much as almost $14,000 annually, the Department of Agriculture says. That's the average for a middle-income couple with two children.
https://www.cbsnews.com/news/cost-of-raising-a-child-parents-save-up/
In my opinion, it takes all the nerve in the world to complain about anything less than $1200 per month per child (And the CBS article not withstanding I really think it takes nerve to complain about less than $2000 a month) And the joker that accused his ex of "balling out" and prompted this mother to defend herself to her own children was only paying $600.
I don't know where they are living where rent is so low. But she makes it perfectly clear that her ex is NOT paying HIS HALF of the responsibilities by providing the COURT ORDERED amount of $600 that he pays to support the children he supposedly loves.
If heterosexual men don't want to pay child support, they should
1) make sure they never become unwed fathers.
2) make sure --should they become married then divorced-- that they are perfectly capable of being the child's primary caretaker once they child is no longer breastfeeding. It is in this way that most children won't be completely horrified at the very thought of Daddy having primary custody as opposed to Mommy.
3) make sure they want primary custody of the children as much as their wife does and that they ask for it.
[Research shows that] 91 percent of child custody after divorce is decided with no interference from the family court system. How can there be a bias toward mothers when fewer than 4 percent of custody decisions are made by the Family Court?
What do these statistics tell us?
1. Fathers are less involved in their children’s care during the marriage.
2. Fathers are less involved in their children’s lives after divorce.
3. Mothers gain custody because the vast majority of fathers choose to give them custody.
4. There is no Family Court bias in favor of mothers because very few fathers seek custody during divorce.
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/cathy-meyer/dispelling-the-myth-of-ge_b_1617115.html
And you know what? Even if you decide this research is biased and worthless, men are probably 90% of the lawyers, judges, etc making all the decisions in family court. So if the world isn't quite as men would like it, they only have themselves to thank. It is in men's best interests to stop claiming women are the emotional, nurturing ones and realize that to NOT-BE-NURTURING is a choice, a lazy one.
By the way? Being butthurt over paying child support for your own children is an emotional response, a childish irresponsible one.
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