...SAME AS RACISM
Sexual Harassment is predatory behavior that often uses blackmail as one of its tools --even though we don't call what men who sexually prey on women "blackmailers."
I don't know what the answer to stop men from doing this to us. But I do know that step number one is for women to change how the dance steps are being done.
I'm not victim blaming. But the truth of the matter is that victims are the ones that have to force change until the oppressors stop enjoying themselves at our expense. Blacks have to force white people stop killing us at will. Women have to stop men preying on us sexually at will.
This is the way the world works.
For me step number one is to stop thinking of being quiet as being professional. To be specific that means Ben Affleck's victim no longer has to laugh off a breast squeeze. Casey Affleck goes to court to avoid going to jail. And Taylor Swift doesn't pretend a hand isn't on her ass during a photo shoot.
In 1993 Anita Hill waited until a man is about to become a Supreme Court Justice to decide the harassment was important enough to risk her career. But in 2017, she should be able to speak up closer to sooner than later.
Anita Hill made sexual harassment real in this country. She gets a lot of credit for that. As a result of her bravery a lot more women wound up winning seats in the House of Representatives and the Senate as a result of women's collective outrage at how lightly Clarence Thomas' behavior was taken. But now we, as women, have to become powerful enough to take the next step.
For me this means women being powerful enough to handle our business in the here and now whenever sexual harassment occurs.
Once women have power, we can choose options 1 and 2 more often. Once we have enough power to choose 1 and 2 more often, we make things better for young women and girls coming up behind us.
However, women have to have more social and political power to do this.
Right now, as far as the gatekeepers are concerned, "sexual harassment" other men taking the"boys will be boys" thing a little too far, with Weinstein getting cay too close to rape (before the rape accusations came out)
In order for this to stop on a more permanent basis, women have to become 50% of CEOs, congressmen and presidents. We have to get into a position where we're not begging men in congress to understand our position.
Unlike the black position with white racism, women are 50% of the population. We can do this. We just have to choose to collectively move to do it.In my mind, this makes other women problem number one -- and not just the white women that voted for Trump.
Make no mistake. Some of the left leaning women in Hollywood (mostly white as that appears to be Weinstein's taste) provided cover for Weinstein for years.
McFarlane's statement did not go viral. In fact, it was barely a blip on the news radar screen.
This tells me that a lot of people in Hollywood --male and female plus the press too-- knew about Weinstein. And his behavior was simply a normal, part of casting-couch lore.
Women not calling him out is a problem in 2017.
You know what else? Maybe we're all complicit.
We're all used to calling a sexual predator "a bad little big boy" and letting that be the end of it. But now is the time for a change.
Calling women out for protecting men is step one.
Moving into the halls of power is step two
Changing the laws is step three.
Calling men out who do this immediately probably has to wait and be step four...because women will continue to lose their jobs without a law change.
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Only then can we put men who do this in jail for the mental and emotional toil associated with being blackmailed because that's what Weinstein was really doing.
The Casey Afflecks of this world should be arrested. Penetration isn't necessary. What did and didn't happen, how much coercion to just shut up and take it, should alwasy be assessed in a court of law. Two women made accusations Casey Affleck's case. And while his brother Ben's behavior was a lot milder, he should have been subject to arrest and fined at the very least; he grabbed a woman's breast on camera and he did it deliberately.
We, as women, may not have the power to make all of this happen right now. But we need to see 50% of power positions in this country as a goal. Rooms full of men in D.C. are making decisions about healthcare, birth control, and abortion right now. We as women need to make a change. In the meantime, we can push for a change in the laws right now.
And I think we need to add a possible blackmail charge to every work-based sexual harassment case. At a social level, we also need to investigate how far the apples named "Ben" and "Casey" fell from their father's tree because, just like racism, the sexism and the male entitlement associated with sexual blackmail is taught.
Sexual Harassment is predatory behavior that often uses blackmail as one of its tools --even though we don't call what men who sexually prey on women "blackmailers."
see part 1
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SEXUAL HARASSMENT AND SEXUAL BLACK MAIL
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SEXUAL HARASSMENT AND SEXUAL BLACK MAIL
I don't know what the answer to stop men from doing this to us. But I do know that step number one is for women to change how the dance steps are being done.
I'm not victim blaming. But the truth of the matter is that victims are the ones that have to force change until the oppressors stop enjoying themselves at our expense. Blacks have to force white people stop killing us at will. Women have to stop men preying on us sexually at will.
This is the way the world works.
For me step number one is to stop thinking of being quiet as being professional. To be specific that means Ben Affleck's victim no longer has to laugh off a breast squeeze. Casey Affleck goes to court to avoid going to jail. And Taylor Swift doesn't pretend a hand isn't on her ass during a photo shoot.
In 1993 Anita Hill waited until a man is about to become a Supreme Court Justice to decide the harassment was important enough to risk her career. But in 2017, she should be able to speak up closer to sooner than later.
Anita Hill made sexual harassment real in this country. She gets a lot of credit for that. As a result of her bravery a lot more women wound up winning seats in the House of Representatives and the Senate as a result of women's collective outrage at how lightly Clarence Thomas' behavior was taken. But now we, as women, have to become powerful enough to take the next step.
For me this means women being powerful enough to handle our business in the here and now whenever sexual harassment occurs.
Once women have power, we can choose options 1 and 2 more often. Once we have enough power to choose 1 and 2 more often, we make things better for young women and girls coming up behind us.
However, women have to have more social and political power to do this.
Right now, as far as the gatekeepers are concerned, "sexual harassment" other men taking the"boys will be boys" thing a little too far, with Weinstein getting cay too close to rape (before the rape accusations came out)
In order for this to stop on a more permanent basis, women have to become 50% of CEOs, congressmen and presidents. We have to get into a position where we're not begging men in congress to understand our position.
Unlike the black position with white racism, women are 50% of the population. We can do this. We just have to choose to collectively move to do it.In my mind, this makes other women problem number one -- and not just the white women that voted for Trump.
Make no mistake. Some of the left leaning women in Hollywood (mostly white as that appears to be Weinstein's taste) provided cover for Weinstein for years.
Back in 2013, MacFarlane was onstage with Emma Stone during awards’ nominations telecast to reveal the five nominees for best supporting actress when he quipped: “Congratulations, you five ladies no longer have to pretend to be attracted to Harvey Weinstein.”
http://ew.com/tv/2017/10/11/seth-macfarlane-harvey-weinstein-jessica-barth/
McFarlane's statement did not go viral. In fact, it was barely a blip on the news radar screen.
This tells me that a lot of people in Hollywood --male and female plus the press too-- knew about Weinstein. And his behavior was simply a normal, part of casting-couch lore.
Women not calling him out is a problem in 2017.
You know what else? Maybe we're all complicit.
We're all used to calling a sexual predator "a bad little big boy" and letting that be the end of it. But now is the time for a change.
Calling women out for protecting men is step one.
Moving into the halls of power is step two
Changing the laws is step three.
Calling men out who do this immediately probably has to wait and be step four...because women will continue to lose their jobs without a law change.
headline
Study finds 75 percent of workplace harassment victims experienced retaliation when they spoke up
https://www.vox.com/identities/2017/10/15/16438750/weinstein-sexual-harassment-facts
Only then can we put men who do this in jail for the mental and emotional toil associated with being blackmailed because that's what Weinstein was really doing.
The Casey Afflecks of this world should be arrested. Penetration isn't necessary. What did and didn't happen, how much coercion to just shut up and take it, should alwasy be assessed in a court of law. Two women made accusations Casey Affleck's case. And while his brother Ben's behavior was a lot milder, he should have been subject to arrest and fined at the very least; he grabbed a woman's breast on camera and he did it deliberately.
We, as women, may not have the power to make all of this happen right now. But we need to see 50% of power positions in this country as a goal. Rooms full of men in D.C. are making decisions about healthcare, birth control, and abortion right now. We as women need to make a change. In the meantime, we can push for a change in the laws right now.
And I think we need to add a possible blackmail charge to every work-based sexual harassment case. At a social level, we also need to investigate how far the apples named "Ben" and "Casey" fell from their father's tree because, just like racism, the sexism and the male entitlement associated with sexual blackmail is taught.
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